babies & friends
Some older friends with no children told us that when some people have kids you don’t see them much for years. After that some relationships will return as strong as ever and others will have run their course. I wrote about everyone else having babies last year and I really appreciated your thoughts.
After leaving this beautiful backyard picnic party for a cute boy in our life, I happily realised I didn’t feel unsettled by it as some baby-focused events can do to me. Partly because these friends still actively include us child-free couples in their lives (made easier by their son’s relaxed personality too). As time goes by I’m also more comfortable with these changes in some of our social circles – physically with my vision coping with moving toddlers and fragile babies, and emotionally. There is still a grieving process even when a conscious decision has been made to go against the grain. We know we’re on our own path and doing what’s right for us, with the support and understanding of our families and a four-legged one to adore. It’s life that we may lose some friends no matter how hard we try to maintain them and I have to stop taking those relationship-fizzles personally. In the meantime, we are learning how to be an awesome “Auntie” and “Uncle” to those adored children who are in our life.
My husband is great for talking all things science, dinosaurs, space etc. I am very good for cuddles.
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